Bachelor and bachelorette parties, while deemed to be a somewhat necessary part of the wedding, can be… well… sometimes a recipe for disaster. I mean, let’s face it, who wants their prospective groom showing up smelling like whiskey and other substances yet to be identified? And let’s not put all of the negativities on the guy. I think we women have all had a few too many martinis ourselves a time or two.

So what are the “rules” when it comes to what has to be done, what should be done, or what can be left out?

Fortunately, in this day and age, the rules are out the window, girls. What used to be set in stone is now written in pencil, and can be edited in whatever fashion we desire. So, here are a few ideas to keep the headaches (and the hangovers) to a minimum.

Many couples are opting to have a “pre-wedding party”, rather than separate get-togethers. This is exactly what is says it is. The soon-to-be bride and groom basically invite friends and family from both sides to the same function. This typically eliminates the idea of tacky strippers and distasteful practical jokes. The couple can celebrate their union together, yet still enjoy the company of those close to them.

Another option is to host the event at the same location, yet at different places within that location. One could rent separate areas in a club, therefore allowing the guests to intermingle at times, yet also giving the couple “alone time” with their pals.

The location is imperative. Choose a place where you will feel comfortable and, most importantly of all, have fun. A lot of couples select an activity that they enjoy, such as bowling, paintball, or even shooting pool. A nightclub is also a good idea, as that several establishments offer special activities for your special occasion.

Timing is perhaps the most important thing to take into consideration. It is not a MUST to do this the night before the wedding. In fact, it is probably a good idea to select a different evening. This will allow you the opportunity to NOT limit your fun, while still ensuring that there will be no red eyes or sleepy (and even possibly missing) bridesmaids at your ceremony.

The bottom line is that this is YOUR wedding, and this is YOUR party. It should be an exciting time… a night to forget the stress involved in planning a wedding. Too many people refer to this as “the last hoorah”, implying that you will never go out with your friends again. Marriage is not DEATH. Do not attempt to cram in too much in too little time. You will see your friends again. You will go out again. You will continue… to live.

Above all else, rent a limousine. Actually, rent two… one for the men and one for the ladies. Even if you are going to the same location, this would give you both your “private time”, and give everyone the chance to have a good night, without worrying about who will drive you home, or attempting to catch a cab when your feet are no longer cooperating, and the ground beneath you is NOT your friend.

Have fun! You’re getting married! Geez…